“The purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honorable, to be compassionate, to have it make some difference that you have lived and lived well.”

With the growth of high-speed broadband connections, video is becoming an integral part of the web experience. As connection speeds increase, it is even practical to watch satisfying streamed TV or full-length videos online. Special events can be ‘web-cast’ – i.e. streamed live on the Web.

Is this a new idea? No, it’s exactly what Jesus did with parables.

A parable does not normally carry more than one element of truth – it does not attempt to summarize the entire gospel. Frequently, it leaves unanswered questions. Jesus did not add, “and the moral of this story is...” interpretations at the end. Our mindset finds it hard not to add this expected punch-line! But Jesus did not.

Web evangelism, also known as digital or online evangelism, involves using the internet and digital platforms to share the Christian Gospel and the teachings of Jesus Christ. It's about strategically leveraging various online tools to connect with people, build relationships, and invite them to explore faith in Christ

This webpage (The Duty Hut) serves as an inspiring haven for children, teen’s and young adults, offering a safe and controlled online space for learning, creativity, and social interaction. It empowers parents to actively monitor and guide their children's digital journeys. We’ve thoughtfully included resources for military families, supporting parents during their service, transitions, and return to civilian life. This site stands as a valuable tool for education and entertainment, fostering a vibrant sense of community while ensuring careful consideration for content and age-appropriateness.

What is friendship to military children?

Ever wonder what happens to the children of military single-parents or military couples with children when the military member deploys?  Ever talked with kids that was dealing with grief and anxiety even after the soldier becomes a veteran?

The military services have always had regulations which required single-parents and military-married-to-military couples with children to have plans concerning the care of their dependents in the event they were ever deployed.  Military children, often referred to as "military brats," are the sons and daughters of active duty, National Guard, and Reserve service members. They experience a unique lifestyle characterized by frequent moves, deployments, and the inherent challenges of military life. While this lifestyle presents challenges, it also fosters resilience, adaptability, and a strong sense of community.

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We created these pages to help with our children young and old.

Helpful thoughts -

•     Find local events for military children in your community.
•     Connect with other families that understand your needs (this may include extend families).
•     Stay connected with a church also stay active.  This will help your children adjust with the separation.

What does the bile say about Children:

“Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of the womb a reward. Like arrows in the hand of a warrior are the children of one's youth. Blessed is the man who fills his quiver with them! He shall not be put to shame when he speaks with his enemies in the gate.” - Psalm 127:3-5

“See that you do not despise one of these little ones. For I tell you that in heaven their angels always see the face of my Father who is in heaven.”  - Matthew 18:10

“A Song of Ascents. Of Solomon. Unless the Lord builds the house, those who build it labor in vain. Unless the Lord watches over the city, the watchman stays awake in vain. It is in vain that you rise up early and go late to rest, eating the bread of anxious toil; for he gives to his beloved sleep. Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of the womb a reward. Like arrows in the hand of a warrior are the children of one's youth. Blessed is the man who fills his quiver with them! He shall not be put to shame when he speaks with his enemies in the gate.” - Psalm 127:1-5

Amber is currently creating a program at her school named Wolfpack Ambassadors to help integrate new students into her school. She strives to make new students feel welcome and explains her thought process

Amber Aubas is a Senior at Greenbrier High School. She is a daughter of a Retired Military Lieutenant Colonel. She is currently a student at Kennesaw State University currently pursuing a Bachelor of Education (BEd) in Middle Grades Education.

Challenges

Frequent Relocations: Military families move frequently, sometimes every two to three years, requiring children to constantly adapt to new homes, schools, communities, and friends. Military children change schools 6 to 9 times on average by the time they graduate high school.

Separation from Parents: Parental deployments and training periods lead to extended periods of separation, which can be emotionally taxing.

Social and Emotional Strain: Frequent transitions can make it difficult to form lasting friendships and lead to feelings of being an "outsider" in relation to civilian culture.

Exposure to Stressors: Military children are exposed to stress and uncertainty related to deployments, potential danger, and the challenges faced by their parents. This can lead to increased anxiety, depression, and behavioral problems. Studies show that children of deployed parents, particularly those aged 12-17, are more likely to experience mental health problems and require emergency mental health visits.

Educational Disruptions: Changing schools frequently can lead to difficulties in maintaining consistent academic progress and accessing appropriate educational support, especially for children with special needs.

Military-Civilian Divide: Military children attending civilian schools may feel isolated from their peers due to differences in experiences and understanding

Key aspects of the Military Child Lifestyle

Frequent relocations: Military families typically move every two to three years. This requires children to adjust to new homes, schools, and communities. Frequently saying goodbye to friends and forming new social connections can be emotionally challenging.

Parental deployments: The frequent absence of one or both parents due to deployments or training is a significant aspect of military life. This can create uncertainty and emotional strain, particularly if deployments are to areas of conflict. Younger children may display behavioral changes like clinginess or sleep difficulties, while older children may experience anxiety, depression, or academic decline.

Exposure to diverse cultures and experiences: Military children often experience different parts of the world, gaining exposure to diverse cultures and lifestyles. This can broaden their worldview and enhance their social skills, including connecting with people from various backgrounds. Some may even learn a second or third language if their family is stationed overseas.

Adaptability and resilience: Frequent moves and challenges like parental deployments can foster strong adaptability and resilience in military children. They often develop problem-solving skills and learn to navigate change and uncertainty effectively. According to the Penn State University blog, "Through the Eyes of a Military Child," "Life as a military child has made me really excited to go to college. Though I have never lived alone before, my skills for making new friends and putting myself out there when I'm interested in something make me feel secure and confident about what's next."

A strong sense of community: Military families frequently form close-knit relationships, providing a supportive network that helps children feel connected despite frequent moves. This can foster a strong sense of community and belonging.

Sense of purpose and values: Military children often develop a heightened sense of patriotism, respect for authority, and a commitment to community service due to their parents' service. Many pursue service-related careers as adults.

Potential academic challenges: Frequent school transitions can lead to learning disruptions, inconsistent academic standards, and difficulties transferring course credits or participating in extracurricular activities. However, resources like online schooling can help mitigate these challenges.

Mental and emotional well-being: Military life can be stressful, potentially impacting children's mental and emotional health. Frequent moves and the absence of a parent during deployment can lead to anxiety, depression, or behavioral issues. Support systems and open family communication are essential to help children cope with these stressors

The lifestyle of a military child presents a unique array of challenges and opportunities that shape their development and experiences. Frequent relocations due to deployments often lead to disruptions in education and social circles, which can create emotional stress and a sense of instability. However, these challenges also cultivate resilience and adaptability, as military children learn to adjust to new environments, make friends quickly, and embrace change.

Additionally, the strong sense of community and purpose that comes from being part of a military family can be a powerful source of support. Many military children develop deep connections with peers who understand their lifestyle, fostering lifelong friendships that transcend geographical boundaries.

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Supporting self-esteem in military children

Military children exhibit remarkable resilience, but the frequent moves, parental deployments, and uncertainty inherent in military life can significantly affect their self-esteem. Here are key strategies to support and nurture the self-esteem of military children, particularly in light of these unique challenges:

1. Ease the impact of frequent moves

Prepare children in advance: Discuss upcoming Permanent Change of Station (PCS) moves with children, providing information about the new location and what to expect. Involve them in the planning process, such as allowing them to help pack or make choices about their new room, says Clarity Child Guidance Center.

Facilitate new beginnings: Research the new area and, if possible, visit it ahead of time. Connect with resources on the gaining installation, such as the school liaison or youth programs, to help children integrate into their new school and community, notes Military OneSource (.mil).

Foster a sense of adventure: Frame moves as opportunities for new experiences, friendships, and learning about different cultures. Emphasize the positive aspects of exploring new places, according to Clarity Child Guidance Center.

2. Navigate the challenges of parental deployment

Communicate openly and honestly: Discuss the deployment with children using age-appropriate language, explaining the parent's role and the importance of their service. Address any fears or anxieties they may have, validating their feelings without dismissing them.

Maintain routines and consistency: Stick to regular schedules and routines as much as possible, as this provides a sense of stability and normalcy during the deployment period.

Establish communication routines: Plan regular communication with the deployed parent through letters, emails, video calls, or care packages. Keep communication open and frequent to maintain a strong connection, says Military OneSource (.mil).

Acknowledge and validate feelings: Recognize that children may experience a range of emotions during deployment, including sadness, worry, or anger. Encourage them to express their feelings in healthy ways and provide emotional support.

3. Build resilience and coping mechanisms

    Strengthen family connections: Spend quality time together, even if it's just a few minutes of undivided attention. This reinforces a sense of belonging and strengthens the parent-child bond, says Directorate of Prevention, Resilience and Readiness (.mil).

    Help children develop coping skills: Teach healthy ways to manage stress and emotions, such as deep breathing, physical activity, creative expression, or talking about their feelings, notes Army.mil.

    Connect with support networks: Encourage participation in military support groups or community activities that foster a sense of belonging and provide opportunities to connect with other military families.

    Focus on strengths and achievements: Recognize and celebrate children's accomplishments, big or small, to build confidence and reinforce a sense of competence, according to Clarity Child Guidance Center.

4. Seek professional support when needed

    Be aware of signs of distress: Pay attention to behavioral changes, emotional difficulties, or academic struggles that may indicate a child is having difficulty coping with the stressors of military life.

    Utilize available resources: Military OneSource, military and family life counselors, and organizations like Sesame Street for Military Families offer resources and support for military children and their families, according to Military OneSource (.mil).

    Consider professional counseling: If a child is struggling to adjust or exhibiting significant emotional or behavioral problems, professional counseling or therapy can provide valuable tools and support.

By acknowledging the unique challenges faced by military children and providing targeted support, parents and caregivers can help them develop strong self-esteem, build resilience, and navigate the complexities of military life with confidence

How your organization or church can help:

1. Identifying Needs and Building Connections:

Understanding the specific needs of children and families in a community is crucial for effective outreach. This can involve data collection, community surveys, and partnerships with local organizations.

1. Emphasis on Relationships:

A key aspect is understanding the positive and negative impacts of family relationships and dynamics on individual well-being and societal functioning.

1. Accessibility:

Provide outreach efforts should be accessible to all families, including those with limited English proficiency or other barriers to access.

1. Providing Direct Services and Support:

Home Visiting:Advocate in support and guidance to families in their homes can be a powerful way to address immediate needs and build strong parent-child relationships.

1. Respite Care:

Offering respite care can provide parents with much-needed breaks and support, reducing stress and promoting positive parenting.

1. Basic Needs Assistance:

Connecting families with resources for food, clothing, housing, and other basic needs can help address immediate challenges and promote stability.

1. Early Intervention:

Providing early intervention services for children with developmental delays or disabilities can help them reach their full potential.

1. Parenting Education and Support:

Offering parenting education classes, support groups, and individual coaching can empower parents with the knowledge and skills to raise healthy, happy children.

1. Therapeutic Services:

Providing access to mental health services, counseling, and other therapeutic interventions can help children and families address trauma, behavioral issues, and other challenges.

1. Partnering with Community Organizations:

Collaborating with local organizations, such as schools, libraries, and faith-based groups, can expand the reach and impact of outreach efforts. Organizing community events, such as family fun days, resource fairs, and educational workshops, can promote engagement and connection.